Preparing future adults

As parents, it’s our responsibility to prepare and disciple these little people into adulthood. It’s not too intimidating in the toddler years when nursery songs, hide-n-seek, and filling coloring books with unrecognizable masterpieces consumes the bulk of our days. But as they get older and choices, opinions, and discipline become more complicated you realize two things; how important those younger years were for building a foundation, and how ginormous of a task lies before us.

Turning twelve marks the beginning of a milestone year in our family. As our boys approached the pre-teen years we realized the importance of intentionally training them to become young men sooner rather than later (we didn’t want to wait until they were sixteen or eighteen and only had a few years left at home to address important topics, values, character issues, and worldly temptations).

On their twelfth birthdays dad took the boys on a special get-away to kickoff a year of Bible study and conversations about life, purpose, budgeting, relationships, etc. On their thirteenth birthdays they celebrated the year with another trip and we gifted them pocket knives and opened their first bank accounts.

Last week when this girl turned twelve, we packed our bags and snuck away to begin her ascent from childhood. We enjoyed tasty food, our favorite TV show, talked about life and Godliness, prayed, and began a Bible study together.

In a family of ten, this tradition is especially significant and provides the space for quality and intentional time for each of our kiddos. Darci and I will sit together each week to go through our study, and (as suggested by my Aunt) I’ll present her with a purity ring along with her first bank account on her thirteenth birthday.

Your traditions don’t have to look like ours, but having traditions tied to intentionally preparing your children for adulthood is important.

Your traditions can be:

  • Weekly
  • Monthly
  • Yearly
  • Related to milestones

Your traditions can include:

  • Significant movies, books, or studies
  • Special food/meals
  • A trip
  • Hiking, camping, or other outdoor activities
  • Gifts
  • Making videos or picture books together
  • Playing a sport together

Topics you may want to cover:

  • Significant family values
  • Religious beliefs; who is God, who am I, righteousness, daily devotions and practices
  • Integrity and reputation
  • Friendships
  • Stewardship and contentment
  • Dealing with emotions
  • Purity and sexuality
  • Being a leader among peers
  • Leaving home
  • Finding a community
  • Worldly temptations
  • Safety
  • School, work, and career
  • Finances and budgeting
  • Marriage
  • Purpose and goals

Published by Tiffanie Lloyd

I am a detail-oriented and energetic multi-tasker traveling at the side of my best friend, and momma to eight amazing kids. God has gifted me with creativity; I'm an entrepreneur, writer, and photographer with a passion for women's health, particularity in childbirth. I own a Cafe and Community Center in Kathmandu, Nepal where I teach Parenting and Childbirth Education. I'm also a Doula, Breastfeeding Counselor, and Holistic Nutritionist. Thanks for stoping by! Be sure to check out my archives, and sign up for notifications about new posts!

One thought on “Preparing future adults

  1. You’ve done a marvelous job with your intentional training time—we’re the recipients of your 18 year old son’s maturity and responsibility here in the US. Yesterday marked his next milestone to adulthood as he drove himself to work in his own first fully paid for and insured car, his new driver’s license only a day old. He’s planned and executed getting a job, enrolling in college, keeping his schedules well, getting his homework done and now his transportation arranged and executed. And during all of that, he’s been a pleasant responsible companion in our home and a joy to have around. Thanks for preparing him so well!


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